Coping in a relationship...

It’s tough to be in a full time relationship where everyone has opinions and think that their opinions are right. Especially when those opinions result to a fight/quarell/ argument...whatever you want to call it. Everyone is on the defense, no one wants to back down and everything leads to another argument...

So what to do in a situation like this?

Well the wanna be-psychologist side of my brain says keep the peace, exist until you can make a mends or make peace if you were wrong. Be cautious of the way you approach any type of communication because the defense mechanism in the other person will make them automatically assume that they need to get ready for war.

However, as the other person on the other side of this war, I feel ready to fight...ready to load my verbal guns, arm my general with fiery sentences that will pierce and dagger at my opponent physically and emotionally just as they have done me! But will there be a victor? or will this end in more hurt and maybe in shame for me or the opponent that I obviously care about.

And with every confrontation, the decision we make in these moments is how we decide to cope in a relationship...

So pray in these times and FOR these times that you need to make the right decision; because as we all know, the wrong decision could end the relationship that before this confrontation ment so much to us...Good LUCK!

YADA... YADAH...

The definition of YADA is "to know intimately". This could refer to ones self, another person or God.

The definition of YADAH is "a form of praise. To throw up your hands and outwardly praise God."

This subject line comes from my love of a newly discovered book and author... The Yada Yada Prayer Group written by Neta Jackson. I was introduced to this book by mere accident. In the library, I had researched a different book on the computer, wrote the information down as to where I should be able to find it only to arrive there and it wasn't there. I skimmed the shelves looking for the information that I had wrote down only to decide that again, it wasn't there. As I turned away in a huff, I decided not to allow my now half hour search for a book that wasn't there be in vain. So I skimmed the shelf one last time when a pink book caught my eye and that introduced me into the world of Ms. Neta Jackson and the Yada Yada Prayer Group.

This book was inspiring, funny, sad, and I couldn't put the thing down. And I liked it so much that I spied a book right next to it with the same title, same author but with a subtitle... So yes I will be reading the next book. One thing I hate, absolutely despise is when I get into a book, like the way the author writes and then cant find anything else that the person has written... So on the library's website, I went to place a hold on the book that I saw next to it but couldn't remember the subtitle. Without a second thought I typed in the authors name. Pages of books written by the same author appeared under The YYPG title with more subtitles. I even googled it and found the authors website to search for the order that the books were written in. To my surprise, there are at least 8 books. Six under the YYPG with subtitles; but reading the authors website I found that there are now YYPG spin offs... I am excited and will attempt to read them all! I will keep you updated!